WHY IS IT?

That when you and a best friend, Who happens to be a man. Are very attracted to each other. And then decide to be friends with benefits. We have been friends with benefits for over 3 years. But every time . Tim finds out that i have either talked to my ex or was with him for a few hours. That he gets all anal about it? He thinks that we are having sex. Which we are not. We have argued many many times over this. I have to keep reminding him that my ex is the father of my children. And from time to time i am going to have to talk to him. This is what i don't get......

Why does tim get so anal about it if we are clearly just friends with benefits? We do tell each other that we love each other. But that was only one time. And we both were drinking. To be honest i do have alot of feelings for tim. And i guess i do love him alot. I am thinking that tim is afraid if we become more then just friends with benefits. That i am going to hurt him and leave him for my ex. See allen, tim, and myself have been longtime friends. For almost 20 years. And yes we have always been attracted to each other. But we never crossed that line. Tim respected the fact that i was with allen.

I AM JUST REALLY REALLY CONFUSED!!!! AND I WANT MORE THEN WHAT WE HAVE RIGHT NOW!